Rules for Our Ethically Non-Monogamous Game of Dreidel
Nun
Player and their primary partner date solo, but tell each other everything.
Gimmel
Player and their primary partner date together, but only one is happy about the arrangement.
Hey
Player and their primary partner date solo. No one’s thrilled about it, but it’s the only way they can maintain the appearance of a happy marriage that hasn’t been sexually satisfying in years. Still, it’s the suburbs, and people talk.
Shin
Player and their primary partner say they’re taking a break from it all while their kid applies to colleges, but are both secretly sleeping with the bi neighbor who sees the same couple’s counselor with her own wife, who is unaware that she has been having an affair with the non-binary spouse of her synagogue’s queer Deadhead cantor for sixteen years.
How to win
No one wins.